Are You Getting in Your Own Way?
Life is a strange animal when you think about it. We are all given certain talents and the ability to develop specific skill sets yet many of us just exist on a day to day basis instead of striving to be our best.
What makes one person so uniquely different from another is the drive to doggedly achieve ones goals. Why is it that the person on the top seemingly arrives there through no effort of their own? That’s not actually the case, just ask any successful person and they will tell you it wasn’t always easy. The main theme you will hear when they speak is how they had to learn to remain focused on their goals rather than their failures. They had to learn to ‘stay out of their own way.’
What is the #1 excuse we have for not accomplishing our true potential? Fear. Fear is the primary obstacle we put in our own path to success. So what can you do to get out of your own way and step over this nasty dragon named fear? First you should acknowledge what it is that you are actually fearful of. What makes you hesitate to take the necessary actions to achieve your goal? Is it the fear of rejection that is haunting your success? The fear of public speaking? What about the fear of success itself? No matter what your answer to this question is, naming it is the first step. Once you have put a face on your dragon it’s time to begin to slay it.
Now that you are looking at your dragon eye to eye let’s look at how you react to that fear. I once was told that if you ask for something and the person tells you ‘No’ what have you lost? But if they say ‘Yes’ what have you gained? The answer to the negative response is you actually haven’t lost a thing; whereas, if you get a positive response you have gained what you were seeking. So it is how you react to the ‘No’ that makes the difference.
If you are affected by the negative answer you probably find yourself falling into the arms of your old friend ‘fear’ again. The negative feelings that you experience and whether you accept your fear or face it head-on will make the all difference in your success or failure. This friend fear tells you, ‘See I told you, you were going to fall flat on your face.’ This is what is known as ‘Self-destructive behavior’. However what I realized when I was performing, whether singing, playing the piano, or public speaking is that in the end when I goof up only I know I made a mistake! I learned that as long as I kept going and didn’t accentuate the flub no one else ever knew where or even that I goofed. When you accept this as fact you too can overcome this fear. I also realized that my audience isn’t there to witness my failure they are there to learn from me. What this means is that they not only ‘want’ me to succeed but they ‘expect’ me to. Hmm, novel thought, eh?
So it’s time to look at your fears, confront them and release them. Repeat after me, ‘Out with the bad; in with the good!’ You must alter your mindset! You must kick those fears aside and take that proverbial ‘step’ outside of your comfort zone. I challenge you to change the way you think. Focus on the positive and don’t look back! You too can be successful if you are willing to kick those fears to the curb and keep on keeping on.
As I stated in the beginning the content you will find here will be wide and varied. So off I go on my first tangent. I hope you can relate to and will forgive my ramblings.
At the ripe young age of 50 I am still having a time making my bed. Now I call that a SLOW-learner. You might say the bed and the sheets just don’t see eye to eye with me. It seems I invariably put the bottom sheet on sideway because they are always coming loose over the weeks wear. Yes, like a good little wife I fight this battle weekly. Who needs the gym when you can stay home and get your exercise by changing your sheets? I always end up doing more than my fair share of gymnastics and track while leaping over the mattress and running back and forth from one side of the bed to the other to center the top sheet.
Well the other day I finally got a handle on how to easily “dress” a king size bed by myself. Watch out Martha Stuart, Ginger Marks is in town! It all starts with the way they are folded! When you fold the sheets so that they are halved lengthwise instead of widthwise you just stand on one side of the bed and unfold it from one corner to the next. When folding the bottom sheet start by placing your fist into one corner with the seam touching your hand. Now be sure you have the opposite lengthwise corner in your hand and place it seam side over the same fist. Repeat the corner-over-fist technique until all four corners are placed on your fist. This will ensure that you have your bottom sheet folded so that it is easily “placed” on the bed when you get to that step. Then just finish folding.
The real key in proper application of the bottom sheet lies in the elastic sides. The sides are the elastic part not the top! Once I figured that out. It became an easy chore. My only worry is when the mattress gets rotated, LOL. What is that you say? Rotate a king size mattress by yourself? Martha! Where are you when we need you? he he.
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I have discovered a unique and active online networking group called Ryze.com It had become my favorite source for encouragement and learning. There I have found the most generous, caring spirit you would ever hope to find. Not only are there groups that assist you with any number of specific subjects but there are wonderful opportunities to share your daily lives as well with people who really care about you.
Having been a networking participant for a number of years I know the benefits and the drawbacks of joining a Chamber or local civic group. Memberships can be expensive and unless you are in the ” elite group” it may not be realistic to expect immediate results. It can take years of participation and commitment before you get significant recognition.
Networking is not easy, nor is it comfortable for some. Let’s break the word down, Net – working. Get the picture? Net meaning online, or an object used to obtain; working, well I guess that doesn’t need any explanation now does it.
What I am suggesting is that networking indeed is a job. You have to participate, get involved, be active, let others know you are there before you will begin to reap the rewards that involvement can offer. Once you have begun participating take a step out on faith and start a conversation. It can be a private conversation with one of the other members or an “open forum” subject depending on your preference.
After you have become comfortable with your participation and group(s) another idea you may want to consider is welcoming others. Do you realize that as you welcome others to groups you participate in that your group grows in numbers and you become known as well. The new members will look to you as an authority and will value what you have to say.
I would love to share more about this topic and extend an invitation to you to join me at Ryze.com for a networking experience like no other you have ever experienced. Look me up when you get there and I will be glad to adopt you as my little sister or little brother and show you around.
Isn’t It Time Your Ryze Page Reflected YOU?
February 9, 2006
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Here is a quote from Dina’s WCAD website:
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